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Nowadays, intimate relationships do not last very long. And the reason is that such relationships require the two people to find shared ground, commit to each other and overcome challenges.

Below are some of the major challenges and problems that modern relationships face and how to solve them.

Communication
If two intimate partners can master communication, they will face fewer problems together. After all, honest and effective communication is the basis for relationship success. But many couples stop communicating the way they used to or experience more confrontation than usual. To improve that, couples need to figure out where their communication is breaking down. Couples must understand that the other person is not reading minds and that honesty is the only way forward. Communication is a two-way street that requires effort from both parties involved.

Having arguments
Self-expression often means having relevant debates with your partner. Successful couples know how to argue by following simple rules, such as never using profanity, name-calling, taking time to respond and always staying on point. However, if they grow into spiteful arguments, they serve no good purpose. Partners should make time to discuss issues before they develop into greater challenges. They must express concerns peacefully and maintain respect. A couples therapist can help with that.

Staying close is a challenge
Over time, relationships change. Things that seemed important before may not phase one partner or the other anymore. After all, relationship dynamics are not the only thing changing; both partners are also involved in change. All of this doesn’t mean the relationship will fail, but there is a need for both parties to make some effort.

Intimacy and sex
A lot of the problems in a relationship stem from sex. Partners need to be honest about what they want and encourage others to do the same. Partners should respect each other’s needs and desires. Making some changes will likely make both of them equally happy. If there is a need, a sex therapist can greatly improve this relationship aspect.

Infidelity
Affairs in a relationship do not happen spontaneously, and they take different forms, like emotional cheating. For a relationship to survive after one partner has had an affair, both must be fully honest about what happened and work to resolve any issues. Cheating can break the trust between partners, which takes a lot of effort to fix.

Money issues

Couples may argue over finances, especially during harder times. A couple faces quite an uncertain future if these problems still need to be resolved. Establishing who is responsible for what in the relationship regarding money is a good idea. Couples should work on their budgeting skills together to avoid problems.

Chores
Responsibilities at home may seem like a trivial issue to resolve, but in reality, many couples encounter large obstacles in that department. They feel resentful over who is dealing with what and become frustrated. To stay on top of that, the couple should keep all lines of communication open. Partners should let the other know they need help and discuss how best to accomplish tasks.

All these challenges are, without a doubt, big issues that couples can run into. It is most important to consider not the hardships but the good things that come out of a relationship and to strive to strengthen them.

© Kate Mansfield Dating Coach