5 Common Problems every Relationship Faces and How to Solve Them
Every single relationship out there experiences certain issues during its course. Arguments arise, intimacy suffers, stress levels increase, and before you know it, you are looking at the prospect of ending a relationship that may have lasted for a long time. In this guide, we will take a look at some of the most common relationship issues and what you can do to work them out.
1. Communication
People out there handle communication differently. Some like to talk about things, whereas others keep the word count low and instead like to act. Of course, communication problems are much more diverse than differences in communication style. Some couples develop issues over time, despite the fact they used to communicate well. It is important to focus not so much on the problem itself, but the cause of this miscommunication. Sometimes we cannot listen, to truly listen to what others are saying, and not just so that we can respond to their argument with one of our own. You can try the so-called talk time exercise. You and your partner get a few minutes each to say what is on your mind without any interruptions. It is important always to talk through your perspective and use ‘I’ statements, instead of addressing your partner mostly.
2. Infidelity
Some believe that infidelity is the apocalypse of all relationships, and it is easy to see why that is so. Affairs hardly ever happen out of the blue, as there is an underlying problem that caused them. Maybe you weren’t happy in your relationship before, your intimacy was lost, or something else triggered the act. While it is true that it is difficult to recover from the wounds and work on the issues, sometimes it is possible to do so. A third party counsellor may be helpful in that regard.
3. Feeling unappreciated
If you feel like your partner is not giving you enough time and appreciation in the relationship, don’t be afraid to discuss it. There is a difficult balance one must strive to achieve at times, between their job, children and their spouse. Talk about it and work out a solution that fits both of you. Sometimes it is a problem of communication – your partner notices what you do, but they don’t say it.
4. Money issues
Financial pressures can easily bring turmoil in a relationship. Honesty and open communication are key to solving this issue. It is never a good idea to keep a secret about debt from your partner. Being honest about your expenses and working a way to minimise them at times of crisis is essential. If one of you is a spender and the other is a saver, tension will rise in the relationship, if you don’t work a satisfying middle ground.
5. Sex problems
If your sex life doesn’t align, you need to be very careful in the communication you choose. It is essential to communicate openly, with compassion and understanding. Judging the other for what you think is a problem is going to add more fuel to the fire. Sometimes sexual issues stem from other issues between you. It is worth investigating whether that is the case and what these other issues are. By targeting the root cause of the problems, you will find the symptom of the sexual issues slowly disappear.
All of these are common problems that arise in a relationship. It takes dedication and understanding to resolve them successfully.
