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The Importance of Self-Love and How to Achieve It


Confidence often comes from self-love. Unfortunately, that is one major problem many people experience – they don’t love themselves. They don’t feel happy about themselves and focus too much on their flaws. Dislike follows and if that is not bad enough, it soon enough translates to dislike from other people as well. 


Loving yourself is very important, especially if you are aiming at establishing a relationship with someone else. It will pave the way to self-confidence and change your outlook on the world to a more positive one. To love yourself more, you need to apply a few tips: 


  • Learn to have fun by yourself – it is a good idea to set aside a few days just for yourself to do something fun. This is so that you can enjoy your own company more. Find new things to try, engage in hobbies that don’t require a lot of other people around and generally, do what makes you happy and smile. 


  • Forgive yourself for any mistakes you made – we all make mistakes, but it is important to remember that you have to forgive yourself about them. Otherwise, you will not be able to move on. Look back in reflection and acknowledge the error. Try to think of the mistakes as a way to grow and improve your self-love, not something that bashes yourself over.


  • Travel at least once a year – if you can travel on your own, do so at least once a year. Travelling to beautiful new places can be an exciting new experience, which puts you on the path of self-love. Other than discovering new things, you will also discover yourself and your self-love. 


  • Make yourself a surprise – every once in a while, you should do things that you would not normally attempt. In doing so, you will better learn yourself. You may even discover that you like something even though you were previously afraid of it. Getting out of your comfort zone in such a way will make you feel ready for new challenges and give your self-esteem a huge boost. 


  • Take a break – you are your own worst judge, jury and executioner. Sometimes being hard on yourself is nice, to push to new boundaries, but sometimes it works to decrease your self-love. However, it is important to remember that nobody out there is perfect and you should not expect yourself to be so. When something happens, accept and don’t be too harsh on yourself. 


  • List your accomplishments – one good way to give yourself a little lift is to list some of the good things that you have achieved in life. It will make you feel happy about what you have achieved and draw some confidence from that. Focusing on these positive things can remind you that there are better things in life. 



  • Begin a journal – to develop better coping mechanisms, you can start a journal. Writing down your feelings and thoughts that you address later will show you exactly how you have reacted and what you can do better. In addition, that is a nice way to vent about the negative things that have happened to you. 


  • Say yes to new interests – trying out something new that you have had in mind for a while is a great thing. You will never know just how much you will enjoy something until you try it. Always look for a new hobby or visit somewhere you have never gone before. 


All of these tips aim to make yourself more. Each is an effective way that will boost self-confidence and make you a better person. 


© Kate Mansfield Dating Coach